Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Life Is All About How You Handle Plan B

I found a sign the other day that said, "Life Is All About How You Handle Plan B".  It really got me thinking and I had to bring it home.  It is now hanging over my bedroom door so that I see it when I am in the main living area.  I have been reflecting a lot about that...  Plan B is all about life not meeting our preconceived ideas about where we will go, what we will do, who we will become.  Let's face it - we all have an idea of who we will marry, how many kids we will have, what kind of house we will live in, the car we will drive, how much money we will make.....Now that I am older (hopefully wiser too), I can look back and kind of laugh at myself and how naive this thinking is.  While I am all about having goals, life has taught me that things rarely go as planned.  We are constantly dealing with Plan B.  When I was getting married, I had my first dose of Plan B - my husband is barely taller than I am and when we married, I out-weighed him.  Really?!  What happened to 6'2", blonde haired and blue-eyed, and 220 pounds (so I would feel tiny).  David is 5'9", green eyed (the kind you get lost in), dark haired, and when we got married VERY thin.  Not at all what I had dreamed of.  The reverse was true too - he always dated petite, beautiful girls - I am anything but....

So the big surprise all these years later - he is perfect for me!  Exactly what I needed in every way!

I thought I would have 5-6 children.  After nearly losing my 2nd and 3rd (born prematurely) I realized that that was not to be.  Three beautiful boys - and again, perfect for me!

I somehow thought I could protect my boys from harm, from hardship, from heartache, from failure - but alas, God has other plans.  They will only grow and learn to become who they are destined to become after going through experiences that allow them to smooth their own rough edges.  I cannot "gift" them that even though I desire to do so.  Our lives and experiences are designed for each of us - perfectly,

I believed I would have perfect children, with perfect wives and perfect (grand)children.  What is most true, is that they have wives and children that are perfect for them.  One of my boys is dealing with a total change of plans - Plan B all the way!  Painful, yes - down the road, hopefully we will see the "perfect" in his change of direction.

Handling Plan B means accepting with grace the unplanned events in our lives.  It is seeking the good in each experience and being "happy" about it.  Sometimes getting to "happy" is a bit of a process...  Experience helps us to see the wisdom in Plan B.  My life would have been VERY different had everything gone according to my own life-plan.  As it is, my journey has been perfect for me.  Plan B-God's plan, is the best plan for each of us.  Sometimes we see His wisdom immediately, sometimes years from the event, and hopefully if we are not blessed to see His wisdom here, in the next life.  In the meantime, perhaps we can accept Plan B with more grace and learn to trust His wisdom for us.  For me, I just hope to handle Plan B with a smile on my face and understanding in my heart......knowing that all these things give me experience for my own kind of "perfect".

Hanging over my bedroom door - couldn't get it into Picassa for editing for some stupid reason!  Oh well, Plan B, right?!

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

My Latest Card-Just Scootin' By

Worked this one up last night - a bit time consuming with cutting all those little pieces from paper, but worth the extra effort.  

Monday, February 25, 2013

More card-making!

All lined up - same style, different papers

Animal print

Attended my card class this week (I have missed more than I have attended lately) - the original card was quite different looking overall, but I kind of liked the papers I chose to work with.  I love the simplicity of this card.  I made a total of 24 - it will be a nice addition to my collection.  

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Izze's Room!


Before - rather blah!

My first attempt at vinyl - gotta admit - pretty much loving it!

Growth chart and Japanese lanterns with the striped wall in the background

Twin bed, striped wall, alphabet cards and my favorite wreath!

Different angle, same view

Toddler bed, vinyl, alphabet cards

LOVE the cute alphabet cards (purchased from Etsy) and hanging on baker's twine with those super cute mini-clothes pins

Better light......

Tossed a few Japanese lanterns on the armoire too

Growth chart, old school desk (so wanting to mod podge that thing)

Pottery Barn picture

Heart wreath

subway art

Bedding (I have the sham too, but need a smaller pillow, so it is in my car until I find one)

Fun "tags" pic

My old Pinocchio

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Barking Dogs

I don't know why I am being reminded of this experience, but I have applied the lesson I learned from this experience over and over again in a variety of situations.  I feel compelled to share it with you too and hope that it may give you a different perspective if you ever need one.

Years ago when my boys were young and energetic, I had a neighbor who felt it was her business to "warn" me of impending doom for me if I did not do a course correction.  She "knew" that I was in deep trouble because she had had a dream.  I don't know about you, but I have always believed that I am entitled to "inspiration" (in any of its many forms) for me and for my own family, but beyond that I have always felt that it was none of my business.  It was bad enough that she came to me to let me know I was in grave danger of losing my husband and children if I did not make changes, BUT the worst of it was she was telling my friends and neighbors - and speaking as if it was factual and not something she had dreamed up.  

I was super bugged about it and it began to consume my thoughts - after all, who did she think she was!  It was in the midst of all this that someone I love and respect shared a story with me....

nice dog in sketch style on a...

When a strange dog comes into a neighborhood, what happens to the other dogs?  They begin to bark and carry on until the dog has left the neighborhood.  If the strange dog has come to visit with a "friend" down at the end of the street and takes time to "answer" each barking dog, he will never reach the goal of visiting the friend.  All those barking dogs will side-track him until he runs out of time and cannot accomplish his goal.  

Likewise, we all have "barking dogs" in our own lives.  People who make a lot of noise and try to distract us from doing good things.  I have learned over time to recognize "barking dogs" in my own life.  Once I have identified someone OR something as a "barking dog" it is much easier to move forward and ignore the distraction.  

Barking dogs come in a variety of shapes and sizes - but all keep us from accomplishing what we really want to.  Sometimes it is a neighbor or family member, sometimes a time-sucker (TV, computer, FB, etc), sometimes an attitude (I won't be able to do it right anyway, I am too slow, too fat, too ugly, whatever!).  I just know for me that simply identifying the "barking dogs" allows me to more easily dismiss it and move forward to my goal.  

I have been grateful time and time again in my life to have had this good man share this with me as it has allowed me to move forward more quickly when my plans/goals are disrupted.  Hopefully this will assist you in being able to push forward when you come up against obstacles in your life.  My husband or I will say to one another, "Just another barking dog", and nothing else needs to be said at all.  Move on, push past, and get her done!  And let's be honest - there are times when WE are the loudest barking dog of all (our own worst enemy)!  

Disclaimer:  To all my dog-loving friends - this is not meant to be a slam on dogs - but even you have to admit when they are barking and barking - it really IS distracting!