Sunday, March 31, 2013

Anyone Know A Good Hit-Man?

So there's a woman that keeps showing up in my life....She is there every time I look in the mirror.   She says things like, "too fat", "getting old", "another wrinkle!", "ugly", and the ever present "YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH!".  I am sick of her.  I need to find a way to get rid of her FOR GOOD!  To date, I have tried drowning her (not enough tears....), locking her out (always finds a way back in), and running her down with the car - (darn thing always gets back up!).  I have limited success - she is silent for a time - but always shows back up louder and more obnoxious than before.  She came to visit for the first time when I was about 12 and has been a frequent visitor ever since.  She takes few vacations and completely zaps me of my strength!  

I know that I should just ignore her, shut her down for good, but no matter my resolve she continues to haunt me.  So, really, does anyone know a good hit-man?  I'd like to take her out back and completely blow her away!  I'd like to tell her how hurtful she is, how useless she is, how completely negative and draining she is.  Then I would like to blow her head right off!

There IS another voice - the one that reminds me who I really am.  The one that lets me feel joy from serving another, loving my grand-kids, accomplishing something hard, who forgives me my weaknesses and short-comings.  I would like to see THAT girl more often.  I would like to celebrate the good, the sunshine, the blessings, and my Savior, Jesus Christ.  I would like to remember all the great times in the last 32 years of my life with David.  I really want to be THAT girl!  The one that finds happiness in the small things - rainbows, spring, the song of a bird, the flowers peeping through my garden beds, the smile of a good friend, the encouragement from a co-worker, the sticky kisses of my grand-kids......  

I am a simple girl really.  Just seeking a taste of perfection.....

I think most women have need of a hit-man....Let's take out that ugly voice forever and be that OTHER girl  - all the time!  It is time to silence the negative FOREVER!  It is time....

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

On A Personal Note

Every once in a while we have an experience that changes us forever.  My husband works with a guy whose wife has been diagnosed with Alzheimers.  They have been struggling for over a year now with all of the things that go along with that.  Sadly, he has recently had to put her in a home.  She no longer knows who he is, she is angry and yelling much of the time.  He has lost his wife, and yet he has not.  My heart is breaking for them and their very difficult situation.  He recently approached the company they work for and asked to be given an open position that would require less of his time so that he can care for his wife.  He was denied.  His last day is the end of this month.  I know you have heard/seen/lived this type of scenario many times.  I have never had it hit quite so close to home and it  makes you realize how quickly life can change.  I am stunned at the lack of care shown by a company he has dedicated over 20 years to.  It worries me that we could find ourselves in the same boat. 
I know that I go along my merry way, working hard and building dreams for myself, my husband, my sons and their families and our grandchildren.  In the blink of an eye everything can change and we are forced to begin again...move in a different direction. 
Spring makes me think of everything new—of starting over again.  Clean, fresh, better.  Not all change is welcome—or positive.  And yet we can start new by changing the way we think about things.  We can use each opportunity to become better.  To choose to be happy in spite of difficult circumstances.  Here’s to a positive outlook whatever our circumstances may be.  I am trying to be more aware of my interaction with others—to remind myself that they may be having a hard day/life and that the way I treat them may have a huge impact on their lives.  I know that when people are kind to me it makes a difference to me regardless of my circumstances.  When times are hard, even more so. 
I hope as we “begin again” this spring that we will re-evaluate our own lives and reach out to those within our influence with a renewed commitment to show love and acceptance.  We do matter— and what we do matters. 


Our oldest son Jason will be welcoming a baby girl in June and Brian will also be welcoming a new (as yet undetermined) baby a few months later.  We are looking forward to more grand-children—the very light of life!

Monday, March 25, 2013

Happiness In A Nutshell

· You get motivated by doing things, not by thinking about them.
· Next time you are upset, remember it’s not so much people who make you angry, as your thoughts about them.
· Whatever thoughts are causing you pain, they are only thoughts.  You can change a thought.
· Where did we get the idea that if we don’t forgive people, they suffer?
· The only way to beat fear is to face it.
· If we are honest with ourselves, we can list almost everything that has ever happened to us — and see how we helped create it.
· The happiest people don’t worry about whether life is fair or not.  They just get on with it.
· If you want peace of mind, stop labeling everything that happens as good or bad.
· You give your best not because you want to impress people.  You give your best because that is the only way to enjoy your work.
· When life is sweet, and that little voice says: It can’t last!  Tell yourself:  Maybe it’s about to get better!
· Loving people means giving them freedom to be who they choose to be and where they choose to be.  Loving is allowing people to be in your life out of choice.

“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.” 
Mother Theresa

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Taffy Apple Salad

Couldn't believe it when I searched for this recipe on my own blog and it wasn't there!  Posting now - such a great salad! 

20 oz. pineapple tidbits in juice (if you only have chunks, cut them in half)
1/2 cup sugar
1 T flour
1 1/2 T vinegar
1 egg
8 oz container Cool Whip
2 cups mini marshmallows
1 1/2 cups cocktail peanuts
3 red apples
3 green apples

Night before (or several hours prior): Drain pineapple tidbits, saving juice.  Mix pineapple juice with sugar, flour, vinegar, and egg in saucepan (I beat the egg before adding the other ingredients).  Cook over low heat, stirring constantly, until thick, about 10 minutes.  Refrigerate, covered, overnight.

Next day:  Combine pineapple juice mixture with cool whip, reserved pineapple tidbits, marshmallows, peanuts, cored and chopped apples.  

NOTE:  I usually get all mixed together and add peanuts just prior to serving since they will get a bit mushy if they sit too long.  Great for winter/fall when other fruits are not readily available.  It makes a large bowl.